Fragmented

My grandma is not doing well, her stats are all over the place, & I have noticed a huge decline in mental clarity during this time. I hope the clarity returns, once she gets better, but it may not. I have a new friend, who has been such a blessing to me, as not only do I truly enjoy her company, but she too was a mother to small kids, & took care of her mother in law who had Alzheimer's , she has shared so many helpful things, but once she told me how her mom in law would " fragment " her. So she would ask her, " Where is the nice lady who cooks for me ? " or " Where is the lady who does my hair ? " I told my friend my grandma was not near that stage, she was VERY with it. Oh how things change so quickly. She has begun to fragment me, & my marriage. The hard part, is it jumps back to reality in a split second. EXAMPLE - Today she says " That couple that was here this morning are such a good couple, they work so well together. " grandma what couple ? " The ones here early in the morning. " oh you mean that couple ( finger pointed to a picture of Enoch & I ) " Yes that couple. " my heart plunged, no not now, I'm here, but then back to being lucid she says " You and your husband are ready for any strife, I can tell. " you mean ( life ) " No, you both care for each other, you can tell your prepared for any strife that comes your way. " then suddenly she starts to talk about her ex husband, and shared how sad she was that they couldn't make it. I said grandma, that must be sad, but look what came from that love ( pointing to the pictures of my mom, & aunt ) she smiled, and said that's true. I said you can regret situations, but you can never regret loving someone grandma. She smiled & said " just don't ever flip your middle finger, at your spouse & tell them you don't care. There that's it from me, no more marriage advice from me. " I'm racking my brain, sorting Dimentia from her, thinking what of that was my grandma ? I guess no one can tell me for sure, for the mind is a funny, yet cruel thing, so I just took away from it what I could. 1. She recognizes, Enoch's & my love, & senses it's strength. 2. She saddened over the loss of her love. 3. She doesn't want it to happen to me so she's saying don't ever ( figuratively flip the bird ) to someone you love. I hope tomorrow she is better, & I'm not the lady on the wall. But if so, the person sitting next to her KNOWS her, & loves her regardless of who I am to her in that moment.