Letter to the family concerning Nursing Homes =(

Hello, as you know we are now faced with the very hard choice of placing grandma in a home. This is primarily for her own safety, and at the urging of every medical professional involved within her care. I will be taking much time away from school work to find the perfect home for her, as this is not something that I take lightly. I need to let you know a few things.

1. I told her, she was lucid, and I never know when that will happen again. Plus she would notice my absence and lots of volunteers while looking for home, and she deserved to know the truth so she/we/everybody can be prepared. She said she would do it as long as it was close and she didn't have to go across the country, and she said she knew it was coming, and although it was fun pretending it would never happen, she knew it was time.

 

2. My goal is to fine a home closest to me, so visits are more frequent.

 

3. I have talked with nurses, Dr's, friends with loved ones in homes, all to narrow it down to the best.

 

4. Beyond this I have compiled along with a list of questions things to ask each home as I am checking them out!

A. Can she have her own room or does she need to share.

B. Can I bring her dog to visit her.

C. Am I allowed to take her out for days to see the lake or have a martini- dirty of course, with a green olive ;)

 

So, if you feel beside the obvious questions that I did not need to list here, that you have a question you would like asked, please let me know. I will try my best, and I'm sure you know I would do nothing short of that. I also plan on showing up to these facilities WITHOUT calling, as I'm sure you know our own tendency to clean up before an expected guest comes, I want to see how there facility is without warning.

 

Also, once she is in the home, I feel as a family we need to create a phone schedule. I know life's changes, but I would hate for four people to call her Monday, and have no calls the rest of the week, so be thinking personally about what you can do to ease the transition. Whether this means to begin writing letters. Committing to call on a certain day. Sending $5.00 every once in a while so I can get flowers on Five buck Friday from the florist.Whatever it is, just begin to pray how it is that you personally will honor her.

  

Love you all